Lessons from a Pie?

Mark here.

True story.

Lynetta and I went to a restaurant for an after-the-movies snack.

They had lots of pies on the menu.  I read a list of the pies to Lynetta and asked what she wanted.  Internally, I was praying that she didn't say coconut cream because my intuition was telling me it wouldn't be good.

Sure enough, coconut cream it was!

When we started to eat the pie, we discovered it was not very good.

Now here comes the funny part.  Lynetta eventually admitted that she ordered it because she thought I would like it and I agreed to it only because I thought she would like it.

So we both ordered something we didn't want AND turned out not to be good!

Some call this 'people-pleasing'--doing what you think other people want rather than tuning in to what you really want.

For some of us, we had to learn people-pleasing because life was dangerous way back when if we didn't stay on the right side of those who could become violent.

But, now, decades later, we may still be carrying the behaviors even though our life isn't physically in danger.

Do you have any behaviors that are carry-overs from childhood that don't serve you anymore, behaviors that might not have you go for what you really want in life? 

Lynetta and I refer to knowing and asking for what you really want as having your "YES".

Blessings,

Mark and Lynetta

P.S.  Life's too short--don't settle for what you don't want.